THE PODCAST
The Kindness Podcast
Named a top happiness podcast by O, The Oprah Magazine.
Conversations with people who prove kindness can change the world. Hosted by Nicole J. Phillips.
THE PODCAST
A funny, honest talk that changes how your people think under pressure.
Named a top happiness podcast by O, The Oprah Magazine.
Conversations with people who prove kindness can change the world. Hosted by Nicole J. Phillips.
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Welcome to The Kindness Podcast, named by Oprah Magazine as one of the “16 Best Happiness Podcasts.” We help people take the heaviness of life and infuse it with hope through practical tips, new imaginings, and vivid storytelling that illuminates the kindness around us.
Our host, Nicole Phillips, is a sought-after keynote speaker and the author of five books, including, The Negativity Remedy.
A note before you listen: this conversation includes references to childhood sexual abuse and trauma. Please take care of yourself as you listen.
EJ and Tarah Kerwin were two therapists already barely keeping up: twins conceived on their honeymoon, four kids under five, a new counseling business. Then a medically supervised ketamine session surfaced repressed memories of childhood sexual abuse Tarah had no idea existed, and overnight her nervous system went from calm to chaos. No diagnosis, no doctor’s note, no roadmap. Just EJ, feeling like he got it wrong every day. They talk with Nicole about what he finally said out loud, why kindness here looks like curiosity instead of solutions, and what it takes to stay when you can’t fix what’s hurting the person you love.
In this episode:
- What medically supervised ketamine therapy actually is, and what happened when Tarah’s memories surfaced
- Why anyone would choose to unearth pain their body spent decades hiding, and what freedom on the other side feels like
- The difference between supporting a partner through something visible, like chemo, and something invisible
- The two sentences EJ said out loud that shifted everything, including “whatever level of connection I have with you now, that’s enough”
- Why kindness in a healing season has to include boundaries and honesty about your own needs
- How intimacy gets rebuilt without pressure, and why “you’ll be fine in eight weeks” is not an answer
- EJ’s kindness story about a moment between Tarah and his son he had waited years to see
- The tool they give every couple: daily check-ins and real curiosity about someone you think you know
- Naming lost intimacy as shared grief instead of rejection, and why that reframe matters
About EJ and Tarah Kerwin
EJ and Tarah Kerwin are the founders of Relationship Renovation and creators of the Relationship Renovation Model, as well as hosts of the Relationship Renovation Podcast. Tarah is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and EJ is a Licensed Professional Counselor, and together they run the Relationship Renovation Counseling Center in Tucson, Arizona. They blend raw honesty, humor, and decades of experience to help couples deepen intimacy and build emotional safety, drawing on attachment science and nervous system regulation. EJ also founded Men Who Do the Work, a group helping thousands of men show up more intentionally in their relationships. Their work includes a top 1% podcast, the Relationship Renovation @ Home manual, an online community, and private coaching.
Connect with EJ and Tarah
- Website: https://relationshiprenovation.com/
- Coaching: https://relationshiprenovation.com/relationship-coaching/
- The Relationship Renovation At Home Manual: https://a.co/d/080cziw4
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationship_renovation/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/relationshiprenovationcounseling/
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@relationshiprenovation
- The Relationship Renovation Podcast, wherever you listen
About the show
Proof, one conversation at a time, that people are better than the headlines.
Every episode, Nicole sits down with someone whose story backs up the thing she's been writing about for over a decade: kindness is contagious, and it's a lot more powerful than we give it credit for.
Planning an event? Thirty minutes with the podcast is a preview of the keynote: how Nicole thinks, listens, and lands a story. The easiest due diligence you'll do all week.
About the show
Proof, one conversation at a time, that people are better than the headlines.
Every episode, Nicole sits down with someone whose story backs up the thing she's been writing about for over a decade: kindness is contagious, and it's a lot more powerful than we give it credit for.
Planning an event? Thirty minutes with the podcast is a preview of the keynote: how Nicole thinks, listens, and lands a story. The easiest due diligence you'll do all week.
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